At the end of the day, I lay in bed wondering how it all went to pot so quickly. Where did my patience go? Why did the kids do that? Why hadn’t I reacted the way I normally do or the way I want to? What is that sticky stuff in my hair? Did I do the dishes?
We’re all human. We all have bad days including our kids. Drake has periods of time (weeks to months) where he becomes especially stubborn and emotional, and these times have a negative impact on us all. I’m sure Devin will have them too as he gets older.
During these times, I struggle to be patient, calm, and happy in my life as a mother, and these times are when Drake needs me to be patient and calm. It isn’t that I don’t love being a mom because I do, but some days, weeks, months wear you down to the bone. The endless screaming and crying and mess making and no sleep and what the hell happened to my body? It isn’t the kids fault or my fault. The culprit is mom burnout pure and simple.
A nice hot bath and some good old-fashioned rest go a long way towards helping keep me out of this mood. They are necessary to my emotional upkeep, but when I hit the burn outs hard, it takes more than rest to bring me back to myself.
How I Get Through It:
Above all, give yourself time. It takes more than a day. It takes more than a week sometimes. Be gentle with yourself, and soon you will be the mom you remember.
Welcome to the family!
We are a laid back, fun, family of four living on a dime in 900 square feet. Life might not be perfect, but every moment of every day, it is beautiful.